Tuesday, June 7, 2011

SOME PICTURES OF OUR NEW FAMILY











AFTER TAKING HUNDREDS OF PICTURES IN THE PAST 3 WEEKS, I TOOK A BREAK FROM MY CAMERA BUT I DID GET SOME SHOTS IN HERE AND THERE!!!!

Monday, June 6, 2011

OUR NEW NORMAL.......

WHAT AN AMAZING JOURNEY WE FOUND OURSELVES WITNESSING. I AM SO HAPPY TO BE HOME, AND ANNOUNCE THAT BOTH NEW DAUGHTERS ARE DOING WONDERFUL AND ADJUSTING BETTER THAN WE COULD HAVE HOPED FOR! YES, THERE WERE MANY UPS AND DOWNS SPENT IN CHINA, EMOTIONS AND SADNESS AND MANY JOYS AS WELL! GOD IS SO GREAT, AWESOME AND MAGNIFICENT...THERE TRULY ARE NO WORDS! I HONESTLY CAN SAY THAT I DID NOT KNOW IF WE WERE GOING TO GO HOME A FAMILY OF 8 OR 9. IF THAT IS ANY INDICATION OF WHAT A ROLLER COASTER RIDE WE WERE ON....AND OUR DAUGHTER EMMA, I WILL SAY IS THE BRAVEST YOUNG LADY I HAVE EVER MET! SHE LITERALLY LEFT EVERYTHING BEHIND SHE HAS EVER KNOWN, AND JUMPED RIGHT INTO A NEW LIFE! AND I AM HAPPY TO SAY THAT SHE IS HAPPY AND IS BEGINNING TO BLOSSOM BEFORE OUR EYES! EMMA HAS BEEN SMILES AND SO PLEASANT FROM THE MOMENT WE TOUCHED DOWN IN OHIO. EMMA AND MARISSA HAVE NOT STOPPED HOLDING HANDS SINCE THE MOMENT THEY MET, AND THEY HAVE BECOME FAST SISTERS!

AS FAR AS ESTELLA, IT IS LIKE SHE HAS BEEN A PART OF OUR FAMILY FOREVER.....DON'T GET ME WRONG.....THERE IS SOME MAJOR "PECKING ORDER" MAKING GOING ON......YOU SEE, MYA IS 4 ALMOST 5 AND ESTELLA IS 6 ALMOST 7 BUT ABOUT AN INCH SMALLER THAN MYA, AND THEY BOTH ARE TRYING FOR THE TOP SPOT!!! IT HAS BEEN INTERESTING TO WATCH THEIR RELATIONSHIP FORM AS IT KEEPS CHANGING FROM HUGS TO ANNOYING EACH OTHER, SO PRETTY TYPICAL SISTER RELATIONSHIP FORMING!!! YESTERDAY THEY PLAYED OUTSIDE TOGETHER FROM 8 A.M. TO 8:30 P.M. THEY HAD A BLAST!!!! MARIAH AND NOAH GET ALONG WITH EVERYONE, AND RYAN LIKES BOTH THE GIRLS VERY MUCH!

WE HAVE BEEN SO BUSY SINCE THE MOMENT WE LANDED IN OHIO THURSDAY MORNING. IT HAS BEEN NON STOP!! MARISSA AND MARIAH HAD A BIG DANCE WEEKEND WITH THEIR ANNUAL DANCE RECITAL ON SATURDAY, SO THURSDAY NIGHT THEY HAD REHEARSAL TILL AFTER 9 P.M. THEN FRIDAY DRESS REHEARSAL UNTIL ALMOST 11 P.M. AND THEN SATURDAY WAS THE BIG DANCE RECITAL AND MARISSA WAS NAMED DANCE STUDENT OF THE YEAR! OH, FORGOT TO MENTION THE TORNADO WARNING RIGHT BEFORE THE RECITAL BEGAN, WHICH HAD EVERYONE RUNNING FOR THE BASEMENT AT THE PALACE THEATER!!! NEEDLESS TO SAY, NOT A MOMENT FOR JET LAG HERE!!!! BUT I COULD NOT ASK FOR ANYTHING MORE, AS FAR AS THE ADJUSTING AND THE WAY OUR FAMILY IS COMING TOGETHER!!! ALL PRAYERS ANSWERED, AND THEN SOME!!!

I HAVE TO TELL YOU ALL AGAIN, HOW BLESSED I AM TO HAVE SUCH AN AMAZING SUPPORT IN MY LIFE! WE WERE SO BLESSED TO HAVE FAMILY WITH OUR CHILDREN FOR 3 WEEKS WHILE WE WERE IN CHINA AND A AN ARMY, AND I MEAN AN ARMY OF FRIENDS THAT WERE THE SUPPORT FOR MY MOM WHAT EVER SHE NEEDED!!!! THAT SUPPORT HAS CONTINUED EVEN TO THIS DAY, AS ARE FAMILY HAS BEEN SHOWN THE LOVE AND TRUE COMPASSION FROM SO MANY! TODAY, I WENT TO THE PICK UP THE GIRLS FROM SCHOOL, WAS GREETED BY MANY WHO JUST CAME UP TO MY CAR TO GIVE ME A HUG, TO LET US KNOW THEY ARE STILL PRAYING FOR OUR NEW DAUGHTERS AND OUR FAMILY. I WAS UNEXPECTEDLY HANDED A WONDERFUL MEAL FROM MY SPECIAL FRIEND PAULA, ENOUGH TO FEED A SMALL NATION, (OH WAIT, I HAVE A SMALL NATION) AND WHEN I ARRIVED HOME, ANOTHER WONDERFUL FRIEND ANNE CALLED TO SAY THAT SHE WOULD BE AT MY HOUSE AT 5:30, DINNER MADE, HOT AND READY TO SERVE, COMPLETE WITH DESSERT, AND THE MOST AMAZING MEXICAN FIESTA!! EVERY DETAIL FINISHED, INCLUDING TABLE CLOTH AND MARGARITAS!!! AM I BLESSED OR WHAT!!! THEN I HAVE TO TELL YOU ABOUT MY AMAZING FRIEND MELISSA WHO HAS BEEN MY ROCK AND MY CONFIDANT THROUGH OUT THIS TIME OF FAITH SHAKING EVENTS! SHE HAS KEPT MY EYES AND HEART FOCUSED UPWARDS! COULD NOT HAVE DONE THIS WITHOUT ALL OF YOU!!!! I THANK GOD FOR YOU ALL!!! I LOVE YOU DEARLY!

Thursday, May 12, 2011

WE ARE LEAVING FOR CHINA TODAY!!!

I HAVE BEEN THE MOST HORRIBLE BLOGGER, BUT ALL THAT KNOW ME KNOW THAT WE HAVE HAD SO MUCH HAPPENING, INCLUDING GETTING MYSELF SO SICK FOR OVER 3 WEEKS!! AND YES WE ARE LEAVING FOR CHINA TODAY TO MEET THE GIRLS!!!!

I MADE A BLOG FOR PEOPLE TO FOLLOW US IN CHINA

JUST GO TO www.babyjellybeans.com

go to blog search and enter

First name: Emma and Estella

Last name: Hecky



I plan to update this blog frequently with pictures and happeneings, so check it out!!!


EMMA AND ESTELLA.......HERE WE COME!!!!!!

Saturday, March 19, 2011

New Pictures of Estella & a Friend Got to Hold Her!!









This adoption has been nothing less than extraordinary when it comes to events and timing! A friend that I met during this journey, Maggie, is the mother to Estella's best friend, actually they thought themselves as sisters, but Maggie brought home her daughter last April and got in touch with me when we started the process to let us know about the girls special relationship. We have been in contact since, and have become quite good friends! Anyways, she is in China right now adopting her daughter Alex, and she made a special visit to Estella's orphanage and hand delivered a package to our precious little girl!

Maggie got to spend two hours with Estella, got tons of pictures and a video! She has had bad internet connection at her hotel, but I received these pictures this morning! This is how she described our little one...and I mean little!

"Yes, she is as little as they said!"
"The Nannies and teachers described her as very intelligent"
"She is a Spitfire, going here, to there, to EVERYWHERE!"
"All GIRL"!
"Super AFFECTIONATE!"

We sent Estella a beautiful little dress, some cute accessories, a little build a bear panda and a photo album! Maggie said that Estella would not put the photo album down of her new family, and kept showing everyone all the pictures! Maggie said she clearly said "Mommy" and "Daddy"! No MaMa or BaBa this time around!

We are so excited to see our travel plans happening in the near future! We are on schedule to go some time in May or the latest, June 10th! That is the same time we traveled to get Noah last year and it is a wonderful time to go!

We also sent Emma a package which we know she did receive! We are hoping for some updated pictures of her very soon! The orphanage director contacted the lady who sent our packages and Emma wants to know when we are coming to China! SOON MY DAUGHTER, VERY SOON!!!

Love and Hugs to all!!! Oh and there are a few pictures of Estella with Maggie's daughter Zoe, who is one year older than Estella! That gives a good picture of just how tiny that little pixie is!! <3

Tuesday, March 8, 2011

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LOA IS HERE!!!

I think for once, I AM SPEECHLESS! We received an email yesterday that literally made me scream out loud! We received our Letter of Approval for both Emma and Estella! Which means that China completed the process of looking through our paperwork and declared that we were approved to adopt both girls! It truly is a miracle, as our paperwork has only been logged into the system since 2/11/11!! That is 3 weeks!!!! I think our agency was caught off guard as well! To put it into perspective, we waited a long agonizing 124 days for Noah's Letter of Approval! And we got both LOA's for our girls in 3 weeks!!! This journey, this leap of faith, this go against the grain, this narrow path to these 2 gifts has been so amazing and so clear this time around that if I could reach up and give God a giant hug right now, well that is exactly what I would do! A GOD HUG!!!

So we are nearing the end of the paper craze and the next steps are out of our hands, but some what predictable. Most people usually get their Travel Approval with in 8 weeks of Letter of Approval which means we will be in China some time in May or June! Exactly what I had hoped and prayed for! Prayers Answered and soon, very soon our girls will be home!

Thank you all for your prayers and support for our family! It sure makes life a lot less "crazy" when you wake up each morning and just knowing that some one, some where has lifted your family up in prayer!

Sunday, March 6, 2011

The Faces of Special Needs Adoption!





It is reality, our family is a walking, talking billboard for adoption. We are asked daily, adoption questions, how long?, how much? and "HOW DO YOU DO IT?" There is never an opportunity that I pass up to talk to someone about adoption. And closest to my heart, Special Needs Adoption! There is a forum I read regularly and a member posted today to share your family's story about Special Needs Adoption and here is ours....and my biggest hope would be that I would encourage 1 person, 1 family to open their hearts and home to a child with a special need.

I have a motto, a little "slogan" I guess you can call it! Special Needs: My child is Special & they need me & I need them! Special Needs in the adoption world can range from something as minuscule as a missing pinky toe to as severe as the defected heart that almost took my 4 year olds son's life. It can also mean having a blood disorder that may never affect them their entire life, or to me is the most absurd, healthy older child. Yes, being healthy and being older is considered a special need. Our family would not be what it is today, had it not been for the "defects" or the "special needs" that my children posses. So in a way, I am thankful (that sounds bizarre) that God made them perfect in His sight, not perfect in a world of where some may look past a child due to fear of the unknown or misunderstanding a need that truly is not a need at all. Don't get me wrong, we carried fear, lots of fear, especially with Noah, until the day I laid eyes on him, and gasped out loud the moment I saw him. I was totally expecting this frail unhealthy, sickly child. But that was not even close! We met a bundle of energy, a joy, the sweetest boy I have ever met! And he sat on a waiting list, in jeopardy of his file being returned, only to have to sit longer, maybe forever, without a family because of his multiplexed heart condition. I still will never forget the moment I saw him on rainbowkids.com I had no intentions of finding my son that day, but I took one glance and knew, he was mine! Marissa walked into the office, saw his picture and started to cry! We cried together! We both felt God opening our hearts! The rest is history! Am I still scared? ABSOLUTELY! It is inevitable that Noah will have open heart surgery this year. A very complex surgery, that will entail the stopping of his beating heart while the surgeons repair Noah's "Special Needs"! If that doesn't scare a person, I don't know what will? But it did not scare my husband or it did not scare me enough to say "No, we will not love this boy, for the rest of his life!" Whether it is for a year, or 5 years or 50 years....he is our son, in total Noah perfection! Come what may......

And now I turn to the "Special Need" of an older child. Mariah, Noah, Estella and Emma would all be considered "Special Needs" just from being older. But I will focus on Emma, who is turning 14 in 5 short months! Talk about the UNKNOWNS!!!! First off, I have entered the world of teenage girls, and that is the thing that scares me the most! Mostly because I "faintly" recall what I put my mother through at 14!! :) But Emma is who she is! We are well aware that she is not going to run up to us, hug us, sing us a song (Mariah did this when we first met her)! It is going to be hard work, dedication, understanding and overwhelming patience! In a fantasy vision of Emma's gotcha moment would be her running up to us, hugging us both, calling us Mama and Baba, taking our hands and us leaving a room painted in rainbow colors while the song "WE ARE F A M I L Y" is playing in the background. In reality, there will be tears, a very scared young girl who is about to have everything that she has ever known changed in a blink of an eye! But we are going to give it our all, our hearts, and a promise that we will never abandon her, never harm her, and will love her for the rest of her life. And in return, our hope is that her heart will be healed in time, she will accept us, love us at her own timing, and find a place in her heart of acceptance and self worth. We do not feel in any way that we are going to China to get our adorable little Estella, who by the way, also has an undisclosed special need that in her time, her decision, her story to tell, will maybe some day share. Yes, a SPECIAL NEED! But we are not going to go and get "two for the price of one" deal, we are not going to "SAVE" Emma while we go and adopt Estella. We are traveling to adopt our daughters who we feel called to call our own, our daughter.

This month, March 24th to be exact, it will be two years since our sweet little Mariah came into our lives and we feel honored, privileged, blessed beyond words to call her daughter. And exactly one week later, on April 1st, we will be celebrating another milestone. our 4th year anniversary, that our Taiwan princess was placed in my arms at 8 months old. Not many people know, but as we awaited travel to get Mya four years ago, we were dealt a devastating blow. A call from our agency that was facilitating Mya's adoption. When I got the call from the director, I knew that there was something wrong. My heart sank and tears flowed as she began to tell me that the orphanage director in Tainan Taiwan felt Mya was behind all the other babies in milestones and they decided to have her checked out by a doctor. They ran several testings and a brain MRI and it was found that Mya had a blood clot in her brain. They felt that Mya suffered from cerebral palsy. WHAT??? I was leaving in 2 weeks to get her and this bomb? I was a basket case, but my husband, the cool calm and collective one reminded me of our journey, our faith and our love for this baby. And in an instant, the peace came about me and we never looked back! And she does not have cerebral palsy!! But even if she did, we would have loved her the way God intended! Mya truly started our mission to build our family through adoption and even though she is "CRAZY MYA" and she is an unpredictable firecracker who at any point in the day she may be sneaking lipstick out of my purse and putting it all over her face, or sadly Noah's face, or the Mya who ALWAYS has some form of food or mystery substance tangled in her thick black hair, or her pretty girl steps she has, as she has been a tip toe walker since she took her first step. Little Mya Min Hecky even took my fears of flying away, as I was determined to take the 24 hour journey across the globe! Mya has taught me the true meaning of unconditional love!

If you or someone you know has ever mentioned the idea of adoption, I encourage you to listen to your heartstrings. Don't let fear of the unknown keep you from the love that Chad and I have had the privileged of experiencing in our lives! Each one of our miracles, our "SPECIAL MIRACLES" have enriched both of our lives beyond explanation, can't even put into words, unfathomable, far beyond any thing we could ever come close to giving back to them! It incomparable! And if you are called to parent and love a child with Special Needs, I am certain your life will be enriched with treasures of joy and love! I witness it daily!

Monday, January 24, 2011

Emma Faith Yang Jie







The Family that God Built!

So if you would tell me 20 years ago, where I would be when I was about to turn 37, I honestly would not believe you! Married for going on 19 years, 5 kids and counting....and a stay at home mom!!! Well, I honestly would not believe you! But I am BLESSED BEYOND IMAGINATION and I would not change a moment in time of the adulthood I have had thus far! My husband and my children are my life and my God is the roots that ties it all together. When Chad and I experienced the miracle of life when we had our son Ryan who is about to turn 15, I thought nothing could surpass the joy and love or at least equal the precious gift we were given...after years of fertility and finally able to carry and deliver are miracle, Marissa 10 years ago, we were finally seeing that no matter how many blessings you are given, love just grows and grows. Nothing prepared our hearts for the blessing of adoption and how our hearts would open up to 3 children who grew inside my heart, not under it! It is called unconditional love and I truly feel an honor that many don't get to experience....the privilege that I 100 percent believe that God planted a seed (well 3 seeds) and when Mya, Mariah and Noah became orphans, God chose me to be their mommy! I TOTALLY would never believe when He would secretly plant another seed and my heart would bloom once more for our dear daughter Estella! Words can not describe how much I already love that little girl and how much I can not wait till I can finally touch her skin, smell her hair, and kiss her tiny little cheeks! There is no doubt in my mind that she is meant to be in our family....no matter how big our family seems to grow! Every member of our family is who they are meant to be!

But what happens next was totally unexpected, and I am still questioning God's plan, His intentions, and His path for our family. Although I have ABSOLUTE PEACE in what I am about to reveal in God's story for our lives, I have truly had to give it up to Him, pray on bended knee and and totally LET IT GO, THE LIFE I HAVE PLANNED FOR ME! But I trust His faithful hand and I am honored that He is so close to our family that He sees the love and compassion that we have for each other and He has given His trust to me, as a Mother! A Mother of 7!

No, you did not read incorrectly! When we go to China to bring Estella home, we are bringing home Emma too! Both Chad and I have taken on as a couple to pray for the 13 year old children who in 2011 will become 14 and will not be able to be adopted. It breaks my heart that a child could go the rest of their life, not knowing the love of a family. We never thought that while we were praying, that God was showing us that we would be opening our hearts and home to another girl. But that is exactly what He did!

I have to also tell you that I had my doubts that this was suppose to happen, that this is what God wanted for us! I have actually argued with Him, reasoned with him, cried out to Him and He just keeps giving me the same command. He has been beyond faithful to me, my husband and my family that I could not turn Him away from what was being asked of me! WHO AM I ANYWAYS to say No! Well, we are not saying NO, we said YES and although this brings on HUGE challenges and enormous unknowns, we are not any less excited then we were going to get Mya as an infant in Taiwan 4 years ago!

So here is our daughter, Emma Faith Yang Jie Hecky! Emma will be 14 years old on August 9 and by Chinese Law would not be eligible for adoption any longer. Although Emma's is currently in a wonderful foster family, she still would not be granted many things such as health care, schooling and job opportunities as an orphan. It is unfair, but the way it is! Emma has been raised by the orphanage director and his wife since she was brought into the orphanage 13 years ago. They have loved her, educated her in the best schools, and have watched her grow into a beautiful teenage girl! Unfortunately the foster mother was diagnosed with cancer and she lost her battle and died. So not only has Emma lost her birth mother, she also is grieving the loss of her foster mother as well. Single parenting in China is very much frowned upon and it was decided that Emma would be placed for adoption. Her touching story is so hard for us to understand but we know that she does want to be adopted, and her only request was that she was adopted into a family with a Father and a Mother. We have learned that she also has an older foster brother and she loves little children! She loves to read and loves to be on the internet! (OH GREAT! WE HAVE ENTERED THE WORLD OF TEENAGE GIRLHOOD!) Our whole family could not be more excited! We actually went to Ryan and Marissa first with the idea of bringing home an older child and both were without hesitation! I LOVE THOSE KIDS! I think Ryan is excited that he will have someone his age to "show the ropes" and Marissa is so thrilled to have an older girl to share things with, including her bedroom!

We are the family that God built! He handpicked our family to experience adoption, he has provided beyond anything that we deserve financially so we in return could bring His fatherless home, He has remained the biggest "CHEERLEADER" for us, as when we ever feel doubt, He is right there, cheering us on, showing us His plan in clear vision!

So I ask that you please PRAY for this lost girl, who will obviously be grieving, be scared, be so confused. I can't even imagine! Pray that she would open her heart to us, that she will some day understand the plan that God has for her and that leaving everything behind in China will bring her a family that will NEVER NEVER NEVER give up on her! She will always have a place to call home and a Mom and Dad waiting with open arms!

Here is our new daughter Emma:

Tuesday, December 21, 2010

Honour's story of how she found a family of her own!

I wanted to share a link about a wonderful young lady who was adopted as an older child, in her words how she felt as she thought she would never have a family of her own. please click on the link, and it will take you to Honour's story. Many people don't know that when a child who is an orphan turns 14 in China they are NO LONGER adoptable and in most cases are forced to leave the orphanage with no means, no money, no job, no home, no family. Many enter the unfortunate life of prostitution and other desperate means of survival. This is Honour's story!

http://cornbreadandchopsticks.blogspot.com/p/honours-story.html

Tuesday, December 7, 2010

Stars for Estella Update and Hecky Family Happenings!











I still get tears when someone even a complete stranger who has no idea who we are, donate and add a Star to Estella's tree! We added 22 more stars and the tree sure is looking beautiful! We are and have been so blessed by the generosity of people that it has taught us such an invaluable lesson in life. One that we hope to pass on and be able to help other families when we are called!

As far as the Hecky House, we have been bustling and hustling with decorating for Christmas around the house, to school concerts and parties! Not to mention we have all pretty much managed to catch a very bad cold, which I have fallen a victim to, but feeling on amends today. But I thought I would share the updated pictures of Estella's tree with 52 STARS on it and some pictures of the clan as we are out in this busy season of JOY!!! Enjoy and thank you all for your prayers and support! You are all Godsend blessings!

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Wife to my best friend for 17 years. High School Sweeties!! Stay at home mommy to 4 great kids, soon to be 5! God fearing, fun loving, loving life every day! Great Husband, Wonderful family, Amazing God. What else is there?